1) They know when to stop talking. Yes. That’s right, it may seem happy people may be on the quieter side but it really has to do with the topic of conversation. Happy people prefer not to engage in complaining, what’s not working in their life or speaking about other people. It is just not fun to them nor does it feel good. They are also intuitively aware that their attention to anything expands so why would they waste their time focused on a topic that would perpetuate negative creating of their own life. They just won’t do it, and you may see them sneak away to grab a cocktail if available. See, you now drove them to drink. Stop complaining.
2) Happy people do not make a big deal about stupid sh*t going wrong. They know life is always working out for them and even in crap moments they understand their own personal power, and see the “crap” experiences as interesting only. They know the temporary emotional set-back serves only as a clear indicator that it’s time to get back on track to start loving life. Yes, everyone falls off track sometimes, even the happy people except they don’t use it as an excuse to crawl up in a ball and cry (for long anyway) and instead move onward and upward as quickly as humanely possible.
You will never see a happy person argue with someone who is acting like a jerk, because:
- They quickly realize (oh crap!?) I am clearly a vibrational match to this jerk if I attracted them into my experience (Gosh darn it!! Next time I’m going to do my best to get on the happy trail first to avoid attracting the likes of you).
- Why would any happy person waste their time conversing with someone clearly not happy about life? Instead happy people mentally send love smacks and secretly send well wishes to those with unfortunate non-loving life ways. Perhaps ending the interaction with a “start loving life” business card (optional). Because you know, anyone even the most miserable peeps can start loving life (plug).
3) Happy people do not try to change the world. Happy people know each person is on their own journey and realize some people are:
- loving life
- want to know how to start loving life or (give out business card here)
- blame everyone else for why they are not loving life. (no business card for you)
Either way it’s all good, because happy people already know the world is a happy place and they don’t need the world to be a happy place in order for them to live like it is.
Choose to live your life on the leading edge of happiness and start loving life today.
To ensure you have the most amazing year ever, below is a list of the
Top 10 Start Loving Life Tips
for an AMAZING YEAR!!!!
1) First and Foremost, don’t make ANY resolutions. You set yourself up for failure before you even begin. Yes, plans are nice but leave it at that. The good thing about plans is they can change. Don’t make some crazy resolutions that once you mess up, you’ll feel bad, your new year goes to crap quickly, and then you’re already looking forward to 2015.
2) Make New Years happen every freakin day. Wake up every single morning knowing you can start the day any way you want. If you want to be cranky about what happened the day before, knock yourself out, you have that right. But geeeeez, do you really want to keep the momentum of what’s going wrong in your life. Noooooo. Instead, know that every day you can start over. Every day you can do something different.
If you are on a diet and ate a big piece of chocolate cake the night before, who cares! Get over it, start that crazy diet you committed to the next morning. Simple. Every day you can start over.
3) Appreciate all the little things in your life going right. So many times we focus on what’s going wrong and we increase the likelihood of more things going wrong in our lives—–which we all know stinks! Instead focus on the simple things that are going right in your life such as maybe a roof over your head, a paycheck (even how small or large it is), friends, family or how about the fact that you have internet connection because clearly your reading this blog (and I bet it’s on a smart phone too).
Stop hemming and hawing about what’s not working and start paying attention to what is. You will be surprised how once you shift your focus toward what “is” working, things will start to improve for you like magic, but it’s not. It’s actually how life is supposed to work.
4) Give yourself a break. You are harder on yourself than anyone else. Get over it, life is not perfect and neither are you. You are going to screw up, face it. The good thing is every time you screw up it further clarifies what you want in life. Take the hit (I mean lesson) and move on.
5) Break the rules. It’s your life, you define it. Don’t live your life for other people. Be who you are and everything will work out for you. This includes your parent or partner. Gotta love em but only you know what’s best for you. Be relentless in what you want, don’t whine, be happy and soon the others will follow.
6) Sometimes you have to cheat. I am a die-hard Atkins fan, but put a Friendly’s Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup Sundae with Chocolate Almond Chip Ice cream in front of my face and consider it gone. If you love something, don’t deprive yourself. Everyone deserves a little ice cream once in awhile.
7) Have Fun. Don’t make a big deal about little things going wrong. Make the best out of each day and fun will follow you.
8) Laugh whenever possible. Why? Because life is just so much more fun that way.
9) Practice smiling more. The reality is most people don’t smile. Smiling is sexy, try it. Try smiling at a stranger and pay attention to how they react, they will either look at you like your weird, gleefully smile back or will think you want to date them. Either way—-it’s fun to smile.
10) Pay attention to Nature. Come on it is free and readily available. It wasn’t until just recently at the advice of my dog trainer that I started to walk my Chihuahua Pumkin at age 5. I know. Who needs a dog trainer to tell them you’re dog pees all over your house because he never sees the outside. To my defense, I swore he was wee-wee pad trained and just kept missing the pad? Haaa—okay, plus I got new carpeting and I wasn’t messing that up.
Either way it brought him and I outside to nature. I will admit though, when it is freakin cold out, my attitude is more of a “hurrrrrry up already Pumkin”!! But when the sun is shining and the birds are chirping, I often take a moment to look around and think, damn…this walking the dog thing really aint soooo bad!
There you have it! Hope you enjoyed!!
See ya in 2014!!!
Growing up I was fortunate (and sometimes not…LOL) to hear my sister Nat’s blaring heavy metal music through my wall as her bedroom was right next to mine. After hearing certain songs time and time again, they even grew on me (come on, “Mother” from Danzig…how does that song not stay in your head hours after hearing it?). It’s funny, because I would eventually ask her who sang the song in hopes to order my own copy from Columbia House. Remember Columbia house?? LOL!!! Get 10 free cassettes/CDs of your choice for a penny but ONLY if you commit to buying an overpriced monthly cassette/CD for the next twenty years. LOL!! PS- not to mention none of that music was typically available on Columbia House.
Anyway as a result, I grew up loving and appreciating all types of music. I remember loving freestyle, old school pop, Salt and Pepa, Faith No More and a wide range of music. I also liked based on my sister’s influence bands such as Motley Crue and some other now extinct bands which shall remain nameless (ha!). That was of course until she moved on to the likes of Megadeth, King Diamond and Slayer type music.
As I became a bit older she was also kind enough (;-P) to bring me to a number of metal shows which I always found interesting as the types of music varied and there was a specific audience for each. One show that stands out the most in my mind was the GWAR concert at the Roseland Ballroom, NYC. That was an interesting show to say the least (LOL!). And although I was unfamiliar with their music, I loved how the band captivated the audience and the audience loved it.
As my sister’s taste in music evolved, I soon learned about thrash and death metal music which is exactly what inspired me to write today’s blog as Nat’s boyfriend Frank is the singer from the death metal band Suffocation.
Last night (like old times) I tagged along with Nat to Frank’s show at Webster Hall, NYC and was soon reminded of what I love most about music in general. It doesn’t matter what kind of music you like, but you have to admit death metal music definitely has the power to inspire and unite their audience together. And for that, death metal music is very powerful.
It is not so much about the extreme lyrics (as some would of course argue) but it’s about the heavy guitars, incomprehensible vocals (LOL), and about the energetic movement that is inspired within the room that gets the crowd going in creating that infamous mosh pit.
Say what you will about death metal music and moshing, but to see people appreciate their choice of music to that degree is very impressive. Like life, music offers a variety of choices. Your only job is to choose what’s right for you. Not anyone else. Appreciate that you have the option to choose but don’t condemn those who choose differently. Mosh to the beat of your own life, which ever way YOU choose and keep everyone else out of it.
I love when people speak about perfection. It’s as if people are always striving to be perfect. Not sure what that perfection is, but I do know based on experience perfection is a crock and striving for it is disheartening and a waste of time!
There is no such thing as perfection. And if there was it would be called dead. Life is about evolving, life is about creating, life is about the excitement of trying new things, messing up a bunch of times, mastering something you want to master then moving on.
Besides, everyone’s idea of what perfection is varies. So not only do you waste your time trying to achieve it, but then you become disappointed when someone doesn’t approve or agree. That alone, is another topic but the point is do not ever strive to be perfect. Strive to be YOU. Whoever that is, regardless of whatever anyone else thinks or says.
Now, how do you know if you are striving to be YOU? It’s easy. You feel good in the process, you feel excited about life and you have fun whether you mess up royally or things are working out spot on for you. It’s all good. It’s all fun. Stop trying to be perfect, stop trying to please everyone, and just enjoy the life you were meant to live.
Live life on your own terms, try it. People will think you’re nuts, but there is no arguing with happiness or fun. And if there is, it’s usually coming from someone who is striving to be perfect and missing all of life’s fun! Haaaaaaaa~~~~~~ Happppppppy Thursday! 😉