How to Deal with Negative People

How to Deal with Negative People

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HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE

When clients ask me how to deal with negative people I always respond with the same answer…

The more positive YOU get, the less likely you will attract (encounter) negative people.

Which is TOTALLY true.

BUT …

What happens when that negative person is in your FAMILY or close circle of FRIENDS?

What do you do then?

And I’ll admit, even after practicing POSITIVITY and HAPPINESS for YEARS, and knowing how to spread my optimistic attitude to others, blah, blah, blah … I sometimes get burned.

And do you know why?

Because I put myself where I know I shouldn’t be.

And it’s NEVER worth the sacrifice. EVER.

So yes, once you get positive you will typically attract other positive, like-minded peeps.

But when you MUST be around someone who tends to be negative, for whatever reason,

Then there is only one answer on how to deal with it …

YOU must give YOURSELF permission to:

  • Excuse yourself from the conversation (politely get off the phone)
  • And/or decline the invite to hang out.

Because even though you may be a positive person,

Don’t put yourself in a situation where you know you must bring ALL YOUR ENERGY in order to have a good time.

That’s TOO much of a burden.

It’s mentally exhausting and it NEVER turns out fun for you.

You may feel bad declining at first, because you don’t want to be rude,

But really, you owe it to yourself.

Because …

Everyone is on their own personal journey.

DON’T test your own personal alignment in order to compensate for anyone else’s LACK of personal alignment!

Instead …

LOVE them from afar.

And know they will eventually find their own happy way.

Because to give up your own happiness for anyone else,

Is never worth it.  EVER.

~Connie

(COMMENT below as I would LOVE to hear what has worked for you…in handling negative people in the past) 

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3 ways YOU may be holding yourself back RIGHT NOW

3 ways YOU may be holding yourself back RIGHT NOW

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Long gone are the days where being rich is only about money. If you are not waking up every single day excited about life you are missing out…

In fact, you are missing out if…

  1. You are hell bent on who the president is (and yes I would say this regardless of who won).  YOU control your life by your decisions and actions.  Don’t use the President or anything for that matter as an excuse to complain OR not be happy.
  2. You get offended by what others do. Who cares what others choose to do. That’s their problem, don’t make it yours.
  3. You say you are a positive person (this one I love!) but your actions are quite the opposite…

Become part of the NEW TYPE of RICH. KNOW exactly why “YOUR MINDSET” is the ONLY thing that brings TRUE HAPPINESS. LOVE AND THE MONEY you want.

So stop chasing the love and the money and start finding yourself.  Because IT ALL means nothing if you’re are NOT waking up every day EXCITED about YOUR life…

XOXO
Connie 

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3 Non-Negotiables in the Secret World of Happy People

3 Non-Negotiables in the Secret World of Happy People

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1)  They know when to stop talking. Yes. That’s right, it may seem happy people may be on the quieter side but it really has to do with the topic of conversation. Happy people prefer not to engage in complaining, what’s not working in their life or speaking about other people. It is just not fun to them nor does it feel good. They are also intuitively aware that their attention to anything expands so why would they waste their time focused on a topic that would perpetuate negative creating of their own life. They just won’t do it, and you may see them sneak away to grab a cocktail if available. See, you now drove them to drink. Stop complaining.

2)  Happy people do not make a big deal about stupid sh*t going wrong. They know life is always working out for them and even in crap moments they understand their own personal power, and see the “crap” experiences as interesting only. They know the temporary emotional set-back serves only as a clear indicator that it’s time to get back on track to start loving life. Yes, everyone falls off track sometimes, even the happy people except they don’t use it as an excuse to crawl up in a ball and cry (for long anyway) and instead move onward and upward as quickly as humanely possible.

You will never see a happy person argue with someone who is acting like a jerk, because:

  • They quickly realize (oh crap!?) I am clearly a vibrational match to this jerk if I attracted them into my experience (Gosh darn it!! Next time I’m going to do my best to get on the happy trail first to avoid attracting the likes of you).
  • Why would any happy person waste their time conversing with someone clearly not happy about life? Instead happy people mentally send love smacks and secretly send well wishes to those with unfortunate non-loving life ways. Perhaps ending the interaction with a “start loving life” business card (optional). Because you know, anyone even the most miserable peeps can start loving life (plug).

3)  Happy people do not try to change the world.  Happy people know each person is on their own journey and realize some people are:

  • loving life
  • want to know how to start loving life or (give out business card here)
  • blame everyone else for why they are not loving life. (no business card for you)

Either way it’s all good, because happy people already know the world is a happy place and they don’t need the world to be a happy place in order for them to live like it is.

Choose to live your life on the leading edge of happiness and start loving life today.

New Years Resolutions

New Years Resolutions

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To ensure you have the most amazing year ever, below is a list of the

Top 10 Start Loving Life Tips

for an AMAZING YEAR!!!!

1)      First and Foremost, don’t make ANY resolutions.  You set yourself up for failure before you even begin.  Yes, plans are nice but leave it at that.  The good thing about plans is they can change.  Don’t make some crazy resolutions that once you mess up, you’ll feel bad, your new year goes to crap quickly, and then you’re already looking forward to NEXT YEAR.

2)      Make New Years happen every freakin day.  Wake up every single morning knowing you can start the day any way you want.  If you want to be cranky about what happened the day before, knock yourself out, you have that right.  But geeeeez, do you really want to keep the momentum of what’s going wrong in your life.  Noooooo.  Instead, know that every day you can start over.  Every day you can do something different.

If you are on a diet and ate a big piece of chocolate cake the night before, who cares!  Get over it, start that crazy diet you committed to the next morning.  Simple.  Every day you can start over.

3)      Appreciate all the little things in your life going right.  So many times we focus on what’s going wrong and we increase the likelihood of more things going wrong in our lives—–which we all know stinks!  Instead focus on the simple things that are going right in your life such as maybe a roof over your head, a paycheck (even how small or large it is), friends, family or how about the fact that you have internet connection because clearly your reading this blog (and I bet it’s on a smart phone too).

Stop hemming and hawing about what’s not working and start paying attention to what is.  You will be surprised how once you shift your focus toward what “is” working, things will start to improve for you like magic, but it’s not.  It’s actually how life is supposed to work.

4)      Give yourself a break.  You are harder on yourself than anyone else.  Get over it, life is not perfect and neither are you. You are going to screw up, face it.  The good thing is every time you screw up it further clarifies what you want in life.  Take the hit (I mean lesson) and move on.

5)      Break the rules.  It’s your life, you define it.  Don’t live your life for other people.  Be who you are and everything will work out for you.  This includes your parent or partner.  Gotta love em but only you know what’s best for you.  Be relentless in what you want, don’t whine, be happy and soon the others will follow.

6)      Sometimes you have to cheat. I am a die-hard Atkins fan, but put a Friendly’s Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup Sundae with Chocolate Almond Chip Ice cream in front of my face and consider it gone.  If you love something, don’t deprive yourself.  Everyone deserves a little ice cream once in awhile.

7)      Have Fun.  Don’t make a big deal about little things going wrong.  Make the best out of each day and fun will follow you.

8)      Laugh whenever possible.  Why?  Because life is just so much more fun that way.

9)      Practice smiling more.  The reality is most people don’t smile.  Smiling is sexy, try it.  Try smiling at a stranger and pay attention to how they react, they will either look at you like your weird, gleefully smile back or will think you want to date them.  Either way—-it’s fun to smile.

10)   Pay attention to Nature.  Come on it is free and readily available.  It wasn’t until just recently at the advice of my dog trainer that I started to walk my Chihuahua Pumkin at age 5.  I know.  Who needs a dog trainer to tell them you’re dog pees all over your house because he never sees the outside.  To my defense, I swore he was wee-wee pad trained and just kept missing the pad? Haaa—okay, plus I got new carpeting and I wasn’t messing that up.

Either way it brought him and I outside to nature.  I will admit though, when it is freakin cold out, my attitude is more of a “hurrrrrry up already Pumkin”!!  But when the sun is shining and the birds are chirping, I often take a moment to look around and think, damn…this walking the dog thing really aint soooo bad!

There you have it! Hope you enjoyed and cheers to the BEST YEAR EVER.

XOXO

~Connie

 

Why being perfect will shorten your life span.

Why being perfect will shorten your life span.

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I love when people speak about perfection.  It’s as if people are always striving to be perfect.  Not sure what that perfection is, but I do know based on experience perfection is a crock and striving for it is disheartening and a waste of time!

There is no such thing as perfection.  And if there was it would be called dead.  Life is about evolving, life is about creating, life is about the excitement of trying new things, messing up a bunch of times, mastering something you want to master then moving on.

Besides, everyone’s idea of what perfection is varies.  So not only do you waste your time trying to achieve it, but then you become disappointed when someone doesn’t approve or agree.  That alone, is another topic but the point is do not ever strive to be perfect.  Strive to be YOU.  Whoever that is, regardless of whatever anyone else thinks or says.

Now, how do you know if you are striving to be YOU? It’s easy.  You feel good in the process, you feel excited about life and you have fun whether you mess up royally or things are working out spot on for you.  It’s all good.  It’s all fun.  Stop trying to be perfect, stop trying to please everyone, and just enjoy the life you were meant to live.

Live life on your own terms, try it.  People will think you’re nuts, but there is no arguing with happiness or fun.  And if there is, it’s usually coming from someone who is striving to be perfect and missing all of life’s fun!  Haaaaaaaa~~~~~~ Happppppppy Happppppy! 😉

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