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How to Deal with Negative People

How to Deal with Negative People


When clients ask me how to deal with negative people I always respond with the same answer…

The more positive YOU get, the less likely you will attract (encounter) negative people.

Which is TOTALLY true.


What happens when that negative person is in your FAMILY or close circle of FRIENDS?

What do you do then?

And I’ll admit, even after practicing POSITIVITY and HAPPINESS for YEARS, and knowing how to spread my optimistic attitude to others, blah, blah, blah … I sometimes get burned.

And do you know why?

Because I put myself where I know I shouldn’t be.

And it’s NEVER worth the sacrifice. EVER.

So yes, once you get positive you will typically attract other positive, like-minded peeps.

But when you MUST be around someone who tends to be negative, for whatever reason,

Then there is only one answer on how to deal with it …

YOU must give YOURSELF permission to:

  • Excuse yourself from the conversation (politely get off the phone)
  • And/or decline the invite to hang out.

Because even though you may be a positive person,

Don’t put yourself in a situation where you know you must bring ALL YOUR ENERGY in order to have a good time.

That’s TOO much of a burden.

It’s mentally exhausting and it NEVER turns out fun for you.

You may feel bad declining at first, because you don’t want to be rude,

But really, you owe it to yourself.

Because …

Everyone is on their own personal journey.

DON’T test your own personal alignment in order to compensate for anyone else’s LACK of personal alignment!

Instead …

LOVE them from afar.

And know they will eventually find their own happy way.

Because to give up your own happiness for anyone else,

Is never worth it.  EVER.


(COMMENT below as I would LOVE to hear what has worked for you…in handling negative people in the past) 

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Anxiety: Why it can be a good thing for your child.

Anxiety: Why it can be a good thing for your child.

The HIDDEN BENEFIT behind your child’s anxiety

Stop listening to the naysayers implying something is wrong with your child.

Nothing is wrong with your child.

In fact, I am here to tell you…


And no, I am not going to sell you on, “Each child is special and unique and blah, blah, blah.”


…I will tell you the TRUTH that eludes most people who have no clue about how life works.

I know, because as a kid I had anxiety and it wasn’t until I was in my mid 20’s I figured out how to overcome anxiety and START LOVING LIFE.

AND not only did I teach MYSELF how to be HAPPY…


And guess what…

 …It was a TOTAL GAME CHANGER FOR ME and it can be for YOUR CHILD as well.

Here’s why it’s important for you to know…


BUT your child needs to learn how to HARNESS anxiety in the RIGHT way.

Because when anxiety is properly addressed, AMAZING THINGS will start to happen.

You see…


Which means your child has the uncanny ability to focus in a STRONGER way than most adults!

This is an AMAZING GIFT because in life, everything you create is a result of your thoughts AND FOCUSED ATTENTION.

The problem lies…

In that your child has established a pattern of COMPETING POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE thoughts (unknowingly of course) which has created:

BIG TIME EMOTIONAL CONFLICT, manifesting extreme highs AND lows (sometimes for no reason at all).  Combined with fear, emotional distress and insecurity, this is what causes ANXIETY.

Sound familiar?


…If your child learns to HARNESS thoughts in a POSITIVE DIRECTION, utilizing the STRONG POWER OF FOCUS…

…Your child will start thinking POSITIVELY about EVERYTHING (regardless of outside negative influences or situations).


…Your child finally feeling:


Don’t allow your child to suffer from all those negative emotions for no good reason.

Instead give your child the OPPORTUNITY to TRANSFORM anxiety from a NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE into a POSITIVE, LIFE CHANGING CALLING and understand: the POWER of POSITIVITY.

“With a positive perspective in life, you can achieve anything.”

Start Loving Life®

For more information on how your child can overcome anxiety and Start Loving Life in 30 days, call/email me at (516) 340-0378, connie@startlovinglife.com.

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What your school is NOT telling you about bullying.

What your school is NOT telling you about bullying.

If you are against bullying you are going about life the wrong way.

Shocker, I know.  But here’s a fact: You can’t fight ANYTHING and win.

Fighting of any kind is NOT beneficial.  Most people would disagree, but those are typically the ones fighting anything and everything.

Here’s a little secret:  Whatever you give your attention to gets bigger.  That’s right, bigger.  I didn’t say better.  I said bigger.

And if you are focused on something you do not want, that also gets bigger.

Sounds like wasted energy to me.

But that’s only because most people don’t realize that in order to affect anything positively in life (meaning achieving the ideal outcome) you must focus on what you want.  NOT the lack of it.

Therefore, don’t be against bullying, because that is the problem.  Instead, be for the solution which is instilling HARDCORE confidence in your kid, because when (and if) the bully comes around your kid will be so in-tune with who they are, they won’t even care.

See the power in that?

And this doesn’t just go for kids or bullies.  It goes for life.

Because sometimes the bully can be a friend, sibling, sometimes the bully can be a boss.

Either way it doesn’t matter.

Because when you believe in yourself.

The only opinion of you that matters…

Is your OWN.

Stop Anti-bullying and instead, START LOVING LIFE®.


3 ways YOU may be holding yourself back RIGHT NOW

Long gone are the days where being rich is only about money. If you are not waking up every single day excited about life you are missing out…

In fact, you are missing out if…

  1. You are hell bent on who the president is (and yes I would say this regardless of who won).  YOU control your life by your decisions and actions.  Don’t use the President or anything for that matter as an excuse to complain OR not be happy.
  2. You get offended by what others do. Who cares what others choose to do. That’s their problem, don’t make it yours.
  3. You say you are a positive person (this one I love!) but your actions are quite the opposite…

Become part of the NEW TYPE of RICH. KNOW exactly why “YOUR MINDSET” is the ONLY thing that brings TRUE HAPPINESS. LOVE AND THE MONEY you want.

So stop chasing the love and the money and start finding yourself.  Because IT ALL means nothing if you’re are NOT waking up every day EXCITED about YOUR life…


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Do YOU feel wrong for wanting more out of life?

Do YOU feel wrong for wanting more out of life?

wanting-more-out-of-life-I remember in my early 20’s, sitting in the Airport Diner in Bohemia, Long Island noshing on mozzarella sticks at 11pm with an old friend catching up and discussing life. I recall being dissatisfied with where Iwas and pondering what was next.

Oddly enough I remember the conversation well as it went like this…

My friend: “Con, I feel as if you will never be happy. You are always wanting for the next. It’s as if you are never satisfied.”

Me: Whaaaaa…??: (

OMG. He was totally right. I recall sitting there with nothing more to say other than thinking, geeeez what is my problem…I am so over eating these mozzarella sticks…if this is my life I am so screwed.

Fast forward 10 years later…

I finally had a new understanding of the conversation that night. It’s interesting to see the things that stand out from your past which at the time you have no idea the significance.

Interestingly enough, that night I thought I had a problem and what I feared most was the mere thought of going through life never being crazy excited about waking up each day, always wanting for more and never getting it, and being strangely disappointed that I would be subjected to the same long career, typical marriage in my mid twenties and juggling some kids until they were old enough for college. Again great for some people but for me…

Little did I realize that the exact opposite would happen and I would probably owe that conversation that night as my inspiration…

What I realized was…

I didn’t feel bad that night because my friend was right. Instead I felt bad because that conversation had me focused in opposition to everything I ever wanted, an improved job, more money, an awesome relationship…etc.

I was allowing some else’s perspective of me based on their own limited thinking (unknowingly of course…) to influence how I felt about myself and my desire for consistently wanting to grow.

As a result, I came to a very clear understanding, one in which I appreciate my friend for calling me out on…

90% of the population is content with status quo. They begin a career, work hard all their life, wake up on Monday looking forward to Friday and counting the years waiting for the day of retirement. And if that’s you and that makes you super happy, then that is great.

But if you are anything like me and find status quo terribly boring and suffocating to say the least then you are in luck…

What I finally realized is that there is a 10% just like me. You know…

Life is about the evolution of YOU. Which means you are always going to be wanting for more, long gone are the days when you pick one career and stick with it your entire life. Instead you will find you create a goal, accomplish the goal and then move on to the next…

And there is nothing wrong with this at all!

In fact, the most growth, fun and satisfaction you will experience in life, is when you continuously expand your boundaries. This is where increased confidence plays a role as the more you try new things and accomplish what you set out to do the more confidence you find in yourself. It is pretty amazing and life-giving once you start on this journey of self growth.

The second realization is something which is equally important and one that I was guilty of for years…

Appreciating YOURSELF. For years I neglected to pay attention and appreciate everything that I had accomplished so far. This includes everything, the little things, the great things and even the things you screwed up royally. Everything you do must be appreciated, because everything you do helps you clarify your likes and dislikes.

Some things you will want more of and some things you will realize once you tried there is never a reason to have to do that again. Every experience allows for you to make better decisions that are aligned with the NEW you and what you are moving towards.

Start Loving Life now…

Life is about progress. Life does not stand still. Life only seems to stand still when you keep doing the same thing over and over again. This equals boring, stuck and the feeling of discontent.

Instead don’t feel wrong for consistently wanting to grow and evolve. That is what a fun, amazing life is about. Expand your boundaries and life will expand with you allowing new and great experiences to come your way. Appreciate everything you can about everything you have lived so far. Give credit where credit is due. Every experience has created the person you are today. Don’t allow any bad experience to consume you instead appreciate the bad experience as a clarifying moment.

And secondly, appreciate yourself for every little thing you have done or plan to do. Once you discover the value in appreciating yourself you will see how life changes in the craziest ways and crazy goooood things start to happen for you…

What steps can you take today to move your life forward?

What things from your past and present can you appreciate for allowing you to be the person you are today?

Leave your comments below 😉

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