Yeah…I can imagine.  You’re thinking of all the ways your child’s life will be different.  Or worse yet…how will they manage in a world that at times can be so cruel…

OR…you can be one of those parents who secretly question what YOU did wrong as a parent…

WELL…

guess what…

So what?! 

So what…your child is “GAY”!!! 

That’s right…I said it.  GET OVER IT…(if you’re confused now…don’t worry…you’re gonna be even more confused when you read the punch line of this blog…)

Ready…?  Here goes…

Dear Parent:

CONGRATS!!!  Congrats on being part of a pivotal moment in time.  A time where you chose (before this lifetime) to contribute to the world in such a way…

that you knew…

Your child was going to be a POWERFUL CREATOR.  Your child was going to take part in contributing to the world.  In not a small way…but a BIG way. 

Cause ya see…your child KNEW that even before being born…that conformity was NOT an option.    And your child knows (even though many do not realize it yet…) they did not come to this lifetime to settle. 

Instead.  

They chose this lifetime to teach others, including yourself.  That life is about being “who you are” and not about changing to fit anyone’s standards…including yours.   

Sooo you have a choice…

You can see your child as “different” and fear for them…

OR YOU CAN see them as THE POWERFUL CREATOR they came to this life to be…

KNOWING they have the wherewithal to make a difference in the WORLD…

BY BEING “who they are” and not giving a crap what others think.  (And by the way…most straight people spend their whole lives…and never figure that one out).

So you decide. 

You can feel bad or worry…

OR YOU CAN CONGRATULATE YOURSELF for being a POWERFUL contributor to a NEW generation of kids that KNOW the power of living life regardless of what others may think or say.

Now really.  Imagine that…?

Stop freakin complaining.  Yup!  Stop complaining about where you are, what you are doing, or who is doing what to you.  Just knock it off. 

The more you complain, the more you perpetuate things in your life to complain about.  Besides…hearing someone complain is suchhhhh a turn off.

However, if you complain to a complainer…you will become the best of friends…yup…good luck with that one.

INSTEAD…next time…zip it.  Next time you open your mouth, make a CHOICE to speak of something good…refreshing…something WORTH talking about.  TRY IT…you will see in time…you really will…have nothing to complain about.

The lesson of this blog is…

1) The reason why your life sucks is BECAUSE you keep complaining…on WHY YOUR life sucks…

2) People do not want to hear WHY YOUR life sucks (AND if they do…THEIR life probably sucks as well).

Let your parent’s off the hook.  They gave you life so YOU can create YOUR own.  That’s it. Don’t hold them responsible for your hang ups.  They did the best they could at the time (yeah…their human too…).  Think of all the times you screwed up when you were younger.  Now add a couple of kids to the mix. 

Besides you have two choices…blame away for where you are now.  OR OWN UP to the most amazing opportunity your parents did give you…and that’s called a chance at a very amazing LIFE (however…the “amazing” part is YOUR choice).

The lesson of this blog is…

The reason you feel stuck is because YOU ARE ALLOWING your past to KEEP YOU from your AMAZING future… (and this my friend is a plain ole waste of your time…)

Don’t be offended.  People that are rude to you…do not like themselves.  Period.  Their rudeness has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.  Many times, we take it personal as if we did something wrong or we deserved their reaction.  The truth is…YOU didn’t.

So chalk it up…to them not being happy with themselves…and move on gleefully—> appreciating that it is NOT you in their shoes…!  The lesson of this blog is…

NEVER let an anyone make YOU feel less than the AMAZING, SUPER AWESOME PERSON YOU ARE…

When to break up…?  I know.  When you are apart you miss them.  Then when you’re together, you are reminded of all the reasons you are secretly devising an exit strategy.

Don’t fret.  I know- you know the relationship is not great, and you beat yourself up for even staying in it.  But listen, somehow, someway the relationship has served you.  Whether it was the companionship when you needed it, or whether being with them allowed you to become really clear about the ideal qualities you want for your next partner.  Either way, lighten up.

Life is about exploring and learning about yourself.  Some times (even though we know better) it takes us a little longer to find the courage to make that change.  And guess what. That’s okay.  Don’t feel bad and stop feeling guilty.

You know you deserve better but this relationship has provided you with the  perfect foundation to prepare you for your future much improved, new relationship. Remember, it is easier to identify what qualities are important to you once you experience a relationship where those qualities are not present.

Then when you finally realize that you are done putting up with the stuff that does not serve you.  And you become sooooo clear about what you NOW want.  You will be ready.  Now, of course it doesn’t have to get to that point, but if it does for you…that’s okay too

Disclaimer: Connie’s blogs are not edited.  Although she is fully aware of grammatical usage she tends to make up her own (come on…the girl created her own philosophy for pete’s sakes…).  If you are new to Connie’s blog, you will see she loves the use of commas, run on sentences, continued periods……..and makes no apologies for it.  At times Connie may use words that some may find offensive.  Therefore if you are easily offended OR not wanting to live a FREAKIN AMAZING life, please refrain from reading her blogs.  Instead, please google “life coaches who conform and pretend to like it”. 

How to get over ex (insert your ex’s name here…)!  Sometimes we fall in love with the IDEA of someone.

Then when we realize they do not live up to our idea…we then blame them for not being who we expect them to be.  But in essence…(and in fairness to them) they never were.

Don’t waste your time waiting around trying to make them into someone they’re not.

Instead…

Thank them for being (and sticking to) who they really are, by not being who you wanted them to be.  Then…get the f*ck out of there…and go after what you really want.

Cuz life…is never about settling…for less then you deserve.