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Congratulations…You’ve Been Fired!

by | Jun 18, 2012 | Career

How many times in life when you experience a life changing event does someone say…”Hey Congratulations”!

How many times when your relationship is over or a divorce is in the works, do you hear “Hey Congratulations”!  Never!  Instead, you get the “Oh, I’m sorry…”!

Why?  Because most often,  people (including YOU) are not good with change.  And by you experiencing any change whether it can be deemed good or bad, people do not know how to react.

In fact, we have been trained to let other people’s reaction set the standard of how we should feel.   So then, doubt sets in (as if it wasn’t there already), and we start to question ourselves and our  life’s present circumstances.  “Well, clearly I must feel bad, if other people are feeling sorry for me”.  “Clearly, nothing good can come of this change….”.

Wrong!  Why?  Because in life there is one reality, and that reality is, you are your only cheerleader!

You are the only one capable of knowing that you have the fortitude to move ahead.  Yes, there are some of us that have people around us that are supportive and encourage us along the way, but honestly that is not their job.

No one else can truly know what you are feeling.  No one else can truly know what you are wanting out of life.  And with that in the equation, we cannot rely on other’s to validate who we are.

Instead, it is up to us, and only us, to embrace what we are given, and that means everything that we experience and every situation that comes our way.

And yes, I know saying congratulations may seem a bit extreme to someone who is just beginning the process of a life changing event.  And you certainly may not be ready to hear it.  And in fact you may find it thoroughly annoying to say the least…

But in essence, what I am saying is (something YOU already know) that whether you just lost your job or just had a relationship end….

Congratulations on being the most powerful creator you came to this life to be… 

You are in the midst of experiencing  one of life’s most amazing opportunities for change.  And although you don’t want to admit it just yet.  You wanted more, you wanted a lot more out of life… and NOW is your time.

Create that perfect job you’ve been dreaming of.  Open that business you’ve been yearning for.  Set sights on that perfect mate and accept no less than you know you are worthy of. 

Embrace this journey that has been presented to you, and most of all “Congratulate” yourself for being that “who you are” and being open to accepting nothing but the very best your life has to offer!


  1. Traci Lebo

    Thank you for sharing! Very solid advice, and instinctively I know this to be true!! But don’t always remember this when going through life changes..
    So I will keep as a reminder that “I” am in charge of my destiny!!

    • Connie Henriquez

      That’s right Traci!!!! YOU are in charge! :-)))))))

  2. Robyn Jill

    Wonderful points you’ve made Connie. I especially enjoyed your directness when stating that although your support network may be in place, the power, confidence, and faith in the future must come from within. Cuz its not their job.. lol so true. Actually in recent years I have taken to offering an “I’m sorry” quickly followed by “Congratulations” when I encounter a freshly divorced or newly unemployed person. (These are really the only circumstances I’ve encounter and can think of for it to be applicable.) Each individual was actually more receptice and appreciative of congratdolence.

    • Connie Henriquez

      Robyn! I LOVE IT- congratdolence…LOL!!! That’s awesome…;-)

  3. Robin (Masshole Mommy)

    This reminded me of the time I got laid off (2 years ago) and I was so excited about it. I thanked the HR rep who called me to tell me and I totally took her back when I said that.

  4. susan

    Yes being who you are is the most important thing… You know how much you need to get ahead.

  5. Jennifer

    This is a great post. We are the masters of our own destinies.

  6. Tiffany (A Mom's Take)

    This is a great post. Reminds me to always try and find the good in everything, even in bad times.

  7. Kelly Hutchinson

    Very inspiration words! My husband was fired once and we should have been congratulated because it turned out to be the best move.

  8. Shell

    This is such great advice. Embracing that journey can be a hard thing to do but worth the effort for sure.

  9. Dawn

    This is such a great post. We create our own success and our own failure. It’s up to us!

  10. Cathy @ Our Mini Family

    You’re right–it’s all in your attitude and the way you look at a situation. Very powerful thought. I will keep this in mind as I enter the new year! Thank you!

  11. Tammilee Tips

    Being let go from my corporate job was the best thing to ever happen to me!! Change can be scary but it can also be the best thing too!

  12. Mama to 5 BLessings

    What a great encouraging post – straight from the heart! I need to hear this!

  13. Nancy Lustri

    This is such an inspirational message. I feel like I can conquer anything after reading your post! I’m ready to face the new year eating healthier! A change for the better! 🙂

  14. Liz Mays

    This is very true. It would be kind of jarring to hear the opposite of what I would expect to hear during a life-changing event. If the person could explain to me how it was positive, I think I’d be thankful though.

  15. Maria

    Positive reinforcement is always an amazing tool! Remember to acknowledge good deeds. It’s okay to “toot” your own horn 🙂

  16. Elena

    What a refreshing way to look at changes that happen when we don’t expect them to in life. They always say your life is what you make it and this article articlulates that so well. It’s very inspiring.

  17. Chrissy

    You are so right! The end of one thing is only the beginning of something bigger and better, you just have to make it so!

  18. Amy Desrosiers

    I am totally guilty of letting other people control my self worth. I must work on becoming stronger in the new year!


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Connie Henriquez Kimmel

Connie Henriquez Kimmel

Lifestyle Blogger & Author

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