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How to Deal with Negative People

by | Mar 8, 2017 | Happiness

HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE

When clients ask me how to deal with negative people I always respond with the same answer…

The more positive YOU get, the less likely you will attract (encounter) negative people.

Which is TOTALLY true.

BUT …

What happens when that negative person is in your FAMILY or close circle of FRIENDS?

What do you do then?

And I’ll admit, even after practicing POSITIVITY and HAPPINESS for YEARS, and knowing how to spread my optimistic attitude to others, blah, blah, blah … I sometimes get burned.

And do you know why?

Because I put myself where I know I shouldn’t be.

And it’s NEVER worth the sacrifice. EVER.

So yes, once you get positive you will typically attract other positive, like-minded peeps.

But when you MUST be around someone who tends to be negative, for whatever reason,

Then there is only one answer on how to deal with it …

YOU must give YOURSELF permission to:

  • Excuse yourself from the conversation (politely get off the phone)
  • And/or decline the invite to hang out.

Because even though you may be a positive person,

Don’t put yourself in a situation where you know you must bring ALL YOUR ENERGY in order to have a good time.

That’s TOO much of a burden.

It’s mentally exhausting and it NEVER turns out fun for you.

You may feel bad declining at first, because you don’t want to be rude,

But really, you owe it to yourself.

Because …

Everyone is on their own personal journey.

DON’T test your own personal alignment in order to compensate for anyone else’s LACK of personal alignment!

Instead …

LOVE them from afar.

And know they will eventually find their own happy way.

Because to give up your own happiness for anyone else,

Is never worth it.  EVER.

~Connie

(COMMENT below as I would LOVE to hear what has worked for you…in handling negative people in the past) 

 

 

5 Comments

  1. Kelly Satterley

    Love This Connie…Thanks For Sharing ♡

    Reply
  2. Marc

    You have to get away from the people that upset you. Because if you give them the time and the energy, they will continue to haunt you mentally for eternity. I learned this the hard way.just walk away…..

    Reply
    • Connie Henriquez

      AGREEEEEEED Marc! And I am sure you will never allow that again…so good for you! Sometimes we have to learn the hard way…but at least the lesson is learned :-))) XO

      Reply
  3. Likelyyou.com

    Negative people love bringing others down. It can sometimes seem like that s the only thing they enjoy doing. So what should you do when faced with a negative friend, co-worker, family member or colleague? At first you listen, offering a compassionate ear and hoping their negativity is just a passing phase. After all, everyone has a bad day now and again.

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Connie Henriquez Kimmel

Connie Henriquez Kimmel

Lifestyle Blogger & Author

I’m a born and raised Long Island girl obsessed with LIFE, LOVE, the color pink, fuzzy blankets, BUXOM lip gloss, my lawyer hunnnies Jeffrey Kimmel, our adorable chihuahua 🐶, Pumkin, 4 rescued non-cuddly cats 😝 and of course…Titos® Vodka!

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